Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,
Does the size matter? Well depends on what you mean. Do you mean the actual size of the ring? I mean you want it to fit and not fall off or cut off the blood flow in her finger. No? Oh so you mean the diamond. Okay well instead answering just one question about the ring, how about answering multiple? In this blog I'll answer the most common questions about the ring in regards to proposing. Ready? Let's start.
First, the engagement ring is a promise and must be returned if the marriage is broken: This is extremely important for young men to be aware of and ladies. It is devastating how many don't understand this. An engagement ring is a conditional gift dependent on the long term commitment on the marriage. If the marriage is broken, the ring must be returned to the one who proposed. Before going all the way through make sure you are both on the same page with this. Ladies, keep this in mind. If you aren't looking at long term then don't accept the ring. You can not just break off the marriage and sell the ring. He has plenty of grounds to sue you and if the ring is no longer in your hands, you will be required to pay the full price. Men, make sure who ever you give it to is aware the ring is a conditional gift dependent on long term commitment to the marriage. In fact make sure it's stated in a prenup or in front of witnesses. A woman who is not interested in long term will feel insulted at this and you'll have a general idea on her views on marriage.
How much to spend on the ring: This one is hotly debated. The truth is as much as you comfortable with. Don't take a loan out just for a ring if you are in a lot of debt. The common idea is that you pay as much as one month's pay per year. This is only a guideline as everyone's situation is different. Heck you could even get her two, one that is the actual ring and one as a test. This is if you are worried about her intentions. Get a cheep ring and make sure she is aware it is cheep. See how she reacts. If she reacts negatively, then at least you are aware now instead of giving her something she can try to sell later and a heavy divorce. If she reacts by loving the ring and showing it off, wearing it all the time, and just seems to glow while wearing it then you know she appreciates it and is not materialistic. A good sign. Otherwise, just get what ever price you are comfortable with. Keep in mind, as you start doing better you can always exchange it later.
How do I know what style to get: Most women will give you hints. If she doesn't you can take her mom or father along. Or you could just choose the ring. Make sure you can easily get it resized. "What if she doesn't like it?" If she complains about the ring maybe you should reconsider marriage. Why? The ring is a gift for the promise of unconditional, love and support through the good and hard times. Men generally will choose a ring that reminds them of how they see the woman they'll give it to. Rings used to be just a gold or silver band showing the woman is under the protection of the man who gave it to her. What the ring looks like doesn't matter in the long run and this shouldn't bother you. If it does, take a look at yourself. Are you willing to walk away if things go south? If not, maybe you aren't ready yet. You don't want to end up in a toxic relationship with a woman who will judge every action you take and leave you with a miserable life. So why do men get stones and take a while to decide on the ring? They want to make her smile and the ring when you can afford should symbolize how you see her and the relationship.
Gems aren't appreciating: No matter what the sales person tries to tell you, you'll be lucky to get some of your money back. So don't focus so much on real diamonds versus lab made. Again if you have a good woman, she won't care either.
What about setting: Again depends on the woman. If she works with her hands all day maybe get ring that sits in the band instead of a high set. Really analyze her and her every day life. This will give you an idea of specifics. For instance does she always seem to somehow break everything? You may be better off getting a thicker or strong material band and a warranty. Take a look at her jewelry and pay attention to the pieces she wears all the time. Are they delicate and simple? Elegant and bold? This again will give you a general idea to her taste.
Can she come pick with me: Yes, she can. Though it may ruin the surprise and the ring is a conditional gift of how you see her. If this is what you prefer then go for it.
In all, the ring is a conditional gift you give her and symbolizes how you see her. This doesn't mean go broke, instead get her something simple for now. A good woman will love and adore it no matter what. Ladies, I would suggest you do not complain about the ring. If you aren't sure you like it, why not ask him how he chose it. Or just be quiet. In a time where it is getting rare to find a man to be interested in marriage, do you really want to jeopardize your possible only chance at marriage with a good man just because the ring isn't perfect? Just something to think about.
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