Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,
Today's discussion will be about romance in a relationship. These days what is romance? They bring you a dozen roses? Get you a new necklace every month? Take you out every weekend? These are gifts not romance. Sorry ladies.
1. a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. "in search of romance"
2. a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life. "the beauty and romance of the night"
This is what Oxford describes romance. Excitement, mystery and the feeling of distance from everyday life. Believe it or not, this can be achieved in simple ways. Here are a few ways.
Instead of a date night out, try a park: This is an interesting traditional dating style that many people over look. Men think they need to spend a whole lot of money on the first date to impress and women think a man has to do this to show he has money. Let's be honest, ladies are any of you reading this trying to be gold digger? Men do you want a gold digger? Then why is the first date and just about everything about dating around money? Now is this everyone? No. In fact there are more people who would prefer a simple, intimate date than a night at a five star restaurant. Online and media says something else. Listen to any talk show and you hear women exclaiming, "If he don't take you out to a nice place, then he broke." Then there is the whole, "He better pay!" It's time to change ladies. Try simple dates. Park, coffee, bowling, hiking, museums, and so forth. Why? Because with money out of the picture, you can then focus on the more intimate art of getting to know each other. Take the pressure off the guys and you by finding cheep dates that are unique. Love art? Why not bring them to an art gallery or even an artistic activity. Love guns? Invite them out to a gun range. Love nature? Take them to a park where you guys can take a nature walk. Unless you are money driven, stop focusing on money for dates. After all, a marriage is not a title to be promoted beyond. It's a life commitment. For rich or for poor. So if you believe this, take it to heart and don't listen to those friends who say you need to know how much money he makes.
Do not undervalue simple items potential for romance: I can not state this enough. Jubilee had a video that will also be referenced in a later blog, which was online dating versus traditional. Kendra (one of the women present) was talking about how when she was seventeen, for 7 years she wrote letters to her future husband. Simple things like can't wait to meet him or spend holidays or the support a man would give. She was planning on writing a letter until she met him and then would give the letters to him on their wedding night. Romantic right? Sounds like the ultimate romantic gesture that could be a wonderful time to help depend their bond together. Problem is she ripped up the journal.. Why? Because a therapist said she was keeping him in those pages. If you watch the video, the men around her were actually taken aback at this. Everyone was in agreement that this was horrible advice. The other two women were horrified at this. She did regret it. But the damage was done. This is why I had a blog about who should you listen to about dating. Everyone in the room was just in love with her romantic gesture that was stolen from her and her future man because of bad advice from someone else who claimed to know something. So what should you takeaway from this? Simple items, simple gestures can be romantic. Do you have those gloves you wore when you both went out on your first date? Keep them. Did he pick a flower for you at the park? Put it in a book. Did you two end up doodling on a napkin at the table when you went for coffee? Put it safely away. Why? because you can show it to him later on. He may pretend to scoff or say how corny you are, but he is taking notice of that romantic gesture.
His views of romance: There is a huge divide when it comes to women and them thinking they need to show their man what romance means. Instead of trying to force your ideals on to him, pay attention to his romance. Men's romance is different than women's. So he may take you to his favorite range for shooting. He may take you fishing to his favorite spot that not even his buddies see. He may take you to an airfield where he takes you to see his plane he is building. Maybe he takes you to the garage where he is building his GT mustang. Never scoff at any man that opens up, invites you to something that is very personal to him and wants to share it with you. This is their romance. It's unique, simple yet very traditionally romantic. It's something special only the two of you share.
Special times together: Sometimes to add to the romantic side you just need a game night. Does he like poker, get him a unique poker set so he'll play with you once a week. Does he love chess, get a unique chess board, find an activity that is simple and fun that you both can enjoy. This bring the competitive edge and mystery of who will win, along with allowing you to forget your problems for the time and just enjoy each other. Hey you can even spice it up every now and then! Strip poker! Too soon? I regress. Either way a game night gives you both something else to focus on and allows you to compete against each other. Movie night also works and who doesn't love cuddles with their man?
All four of these fit romance. Why? There is a bit of mystery, excitement, and remoteness. Remoteness is distance from something so distance from every day life. This is very important and also what all the movies and books are talking about. When the rest of the world just seems to fade away. You can bring romance back into your life and save some money while you're at it. This allows you to continue the romance even if another pandemic happens and you start to struggle. Keep real romance alive Ladies and Gentlemen.
Link to the video is below and as always, take hold of your own future.
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