Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,
A few years ago there was a scale that went viral. If you remember, it was the hot/crazy scale made for young men. Now I have researched and I have found a few charts made for women but they focus on physical attraction as well. (I personally think the below chart is more tailored towards the independent woman or the modern women. I could be wrong and I might be getting confused on the free meal part. That's a lot of work for a free meal. )
Personally, I do not believe this is what women look for, at least not the first on their list.
Why?
How many celebrities have you seen that aren't that hot but always seems to have really sexy, top shape women? In fact even looking at the bad boys, how many times have you've just stared as he's not all that attractive? Ladies I am not talking so much about the players but I'm sure you get the picture. So what are all these women see? Status/ respect. So let's dive into this topic today!
So in my scale I picked the two qualities that I believe women value which is status and loyalty. Now Status and respect can be many things. It could be street cred, it could be career, it could be respect among peers, it could be even money status. The other is Loyalty which I believe a lot of women value in their hearts (I'm an optimist here) but seem to get caught up chasing the status and then get hurt. Once hurt they never take the time to heal and just start chasing the next heart throb without thinking. Now this is not all encompassing and there are outliers.
So the first you'll see is No in big letters. This is Status up to 9 with a loyalty 5 and below. Ladies, if you met a guy who everyone seems to know, isn't taken and has a long list of past partners and broken hearts, why are you with him? If girls are texting you, messaging you, telling you they are with him then why are you trying? You aren't going to be the one to change him, you aren't special, and you are setting yourself for a heartbreak. Stay away from the guys that you can feel, or know for a fact, that they aren't loyal. If you were the side chick and he left his girl for you, you should call it off. What makes you think he won't do it to you?
9-10 on Status. Ladies, if you meet a man that seems to be everything, has all the success and respect, living in the fast lane, beware! One, either they have a main girl, or a wife and is cheating on her, or they aren't loyal. I hate to be that person ladies, but if you haven't been there with the guy through his struggles, do you really expect to walk into his life at it's highest with the demand he is loyal? Ladies, let's be honest. You know how many women are laying at the men's feet who have the highest status, begging for attention. If he has all the best looking women at his feet, why would he sacrifice his freedom of sleeping around for marriage? What can you offer him that he doesn't already have?
So 5-8 loyalty and 0-8 status is fun. This is the modern woman's party life. The men she can get to sleep with her but can't seem to get a relationship. In their defense, they usually aren't looking for anything series during that stage. I do not recommend this any woman who wants a family, long term relationship and so forth.
Why?
Most of these men aren't looking for anything serious. You'll notice that when you attempt to put boundaries down, they ghost, try to persuade you change your mind, or go after your best friend to make you jealous. Most of these guys are just looking for a good time and they are a lot less picky about their one night stands then relationship material. Stay away from these if you know you want a strong, long term, relationship. If you don't then why are you reading this? Go have fun.
Now we'll start at the top. If you meet a man who has all the status and respect, he's taken. Either with a wife and is loyal to her or he fits into the above danger zone. Not all men, just the majority of the high status men are taken in one way or another. Be careful here, the women can be territorial of their man. Again not all but many.
Now on to Date. Yes I am going out of order here. When you are dating ladies, you need to be looking at 8-10 loyalty and on average a 1-5 or 6 on status. Why? As stated above, if you go after him when he has everything, why would he value you? Ladies you need to be looking at the guys who may have a lower status at the moment but have honor, respect among their friends or coworkers, the ones who's actions match their words. Ladies our attraction does start to decline and our value decreases about 30+ so you should be spending the majority of your prime with the guys with potential. You need to build a relationship of respect and loyalty so when he does get to the top, he will be loyal to you, as long as you are loyal to him. What should you be looking for?
Protector
Drive/passion/purpose
Wants kids
His actions match his words/honor
You respect him, his knowledge you don't have, or the value he brings to the table.
problem solver
Think about a man in your life that you as a woman value and respect. Look at the qualities he has and try to find that in the man you are looking for. Remember you are looking for a long term relationship ladies, not a 3 month dead end.
The last is marriage. Keep in mind that this is all up to him. People will be asking you how he proposed and about the ring for the rest of your life. I hate to say it ladies but most won't ask about the wedding itself. So keep this in mind ladies. Marriage will only come up when he feels he can support you and he can trust you. This is why I say take your time. Don't chase the men who don't want to get married if that's what you want. Focus on the guys who want that. VALUE IT! In a time where men are more than happy to stay a bachelor because of the laws, you should be valuing any man willing to take that leap. If you ca not be loyal, then don't go after these men. Don't destroy them, their trust, and break them emotionally. SERIOUSLY ladies I thought we were suppose to be more compassionate?
The brick part is the men that have no status. Bluntly speaking most women don't see these men. Not to be mean to any men reading this. Women generally don't see the men who live in their mom's basement at 35 with no real drive.
Now keep in mind Ladies that I encourage you in the dating experience to get to know the guy. Just because a guy looks like he could protect you, doesn't mean he will. Make sure his actions match his words ladies.
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