Hello Ladies and Gentleman,
The topic today is what attracts men? Now I don't mean any man. I'm talking about men who will take the lead and have a purpose, men who will protect and provide for your family. Men who want a family and are looking for a long term commitment. This men are hard to find find because the competition is tough. These men start looking for a long term commitment years after they find their purpose, have finances in order and are in their prime. What is a man's prime? In general it is believed to start around thirty years old and goes till fifty years old. The problem is women are striking out when it comes to these men. Men of their prime have choices. They have the women who are young, at their prime in their 20's, and they have older women who have careers but are older and falling out of their prime. So the question, especially for young women in their prime, how to attract these men and beat out the competition?
Being Feminine/take care of yourself
Honesty
wife skills
nurturing
Don't push marriage
Sounds simple right? Let's take a look at each one.
Being Feminine: Never underestimate the allure of being feminine. This means taking care of yourself and trading in some of those suit pants or jeans for a few more dresses. Sound sexist? You'd be wrong. Even females respond better to feminine beauty. Samantha Bruick found this fact out the hard way when she tried to start her female only business. Fashion was a divider among her staff. Add on that 73% of all fashion designers are women and you see the point. Both women and men react to feminine women differently than others. So dress yourself up. Even in business you'll be surprised the difference going in to a meeting in a dress and heels vs suit pants can make.
Honesty: In a world where lies surround us from the internet, TV, and even in our personal lives this is a key component. Men in their prime have been in a lot of relationships and a good majority of them have involved with lies and deceit. To make yourself stand out, no more white lies. No more deflecting blame. Take accountability. This prevents from a web of lies that will eventually come out in a situation 10 times worse. It also will create a strong foundation for the relationship. If you don't lie about anything, he will reciprocate, if he's a good man. Plus refusing to lie will create stronger relationships with those in your life and highlight the bad influences in your life. Again men have all the cards, in order to stand out you need to be different. So don't lie, even when you feel like you have to or you jump to defend yourself, don't. Instead take responsibility.
Wife skills: This part will anger a lot of women but if you are failing at the dating market, you need to hear this. Ladies, wife skills are important to any man who wants a family. If you want a man to take care of you and allow you to stay home you need to offer something in return. Think about it, this man will provide for you, protect you, hopefully for the rest of your lives. Men don't care about stability in terms of a career or how many titles are behind her name. That's what women love about men. Men want wife skills. Here are the three major ones:
Cooking
Cleaning
Money saving skills
Cooking is important because handmade meals cost less to make than trying to buy those prepared meals. Plus the validation women get from cooking a beloved homemade meal that your man brags about to everyone who will listen is fulfilling. Imagine being asked when you go to a family gathering, "Hey, tell Stacy to make that home made pie and bring it. That was so good!"
Cleaning is important because those men you want will be spending all their time on their purpose and won't have time for cleaning. He also won't want to spend money on a maid. So learn to clean the home well. A man will be more willing to allow you to decorate the home (except the man cave) if you are the one cleaning it. Plus ladies, we love hosting. So why not feel comfortable by making sure the home is cleaned the way you want, and be prepared for unexpectant visits. And again ladies, most women don't clean. Want to stand out? Learn to clean and organize.
Money saving skills is essential for the future. So stop going to spend money on labels for purses and brand items. Go to a thrift store, or try Thredup, (https://www.thredup.com/r/H6NRBX) where you can still get the name brands at a deal. Donate your clothes or items and then claim it on your taxes at the end of the year. Learn to track spending for the family and come up with unique ways to save money. In other words, learn to take care of the books. Another stigma around women is that they cost a lot so learn to live below your means. This will be attractive to a man because they love saving money since they focus on the future.
Nurturing: This is important not only as a wife quality but as a mom as well. Nurturing is encouraging the development of not just the children but your man as well. Supporting your man is a part of this quality.
Making time for those who are important to you
attacking the problem, not the purpose,
Being passionately appreciative of everyone and their time (if they are a good influence in your life)
Be compassionate
Being gentle but firm in your beliefs
Loyal
Don't push marriage: That is the biggest red flag a women could possible show now a days. As soon as you push marriage a man will walk the other way in a heartbeat. Instead just focus on the relationship. This is safety for men and women. Two years isn't that long for anyone to keep up a perfect perception. So wait. Till you see what someone does in the worst situations and the best. When you try to give an ultimatum or force the marriage, he will see you as controlling and as a gold digger only after money.
You have no need to take this advice. If you are striking out in the dating life, give it a try. If you are just entering in your prime ladies, take this to heart. There is a lot competition out there so give yourself the best advantage for a future.
Remember to take your future in your own hands.
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