Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,
It's time to discuss the elephant in the room when it comes to dating. Changes. Before we do this, you may ask an important question.
Why should I listen to you?
This is a great question and something you should ask frequently when online due to the ever increasing amount of scams and misrepresentation that now occurs. So, to answer your question:
I am not in the dating market and haven't been for years
I have been in a successful relationship for almost 8 years
I started my relationship as a virgin
I have three children from the same man
I do not put an emphasis on marriage
I am not in the dating Market: What this means is that I am not your competition. I am not trying to sabotage your chances at a family or a future. This is important especially for our young ladies. We have all had those people who purposely sabotaged us to improve their own chances. Maybe you had a friend who said you deserved that better man only to find out, she dates him a few months later or she delays giving you his number in hopes of getting him first. Be aware of anyone in the dating market who is trying to give you advice and ask why are they giving advice.
I have been in a successful relationship for 7 years: Despite what you'll read anywhere else, just because you've made every mistake out there in relationships, doesn't mean you should rely on that person to give advice. Why? They are not successful. If they are still single that means they still haven't figured out what is needed to have and keep a strong relationship. They are currently in the dating market and as stated above, how much can you trust their motives? If you wanted financial advice, would you take it from someone who was broke? Probably not. The same should go for dating advice. Take advice from others who have had a healthy and successful relationship for years, not from those constantly changing partners or in on and off relationships.
I started my relationship as a virgin: I can already hear the disbelief and yelling. Hold on ladies. Remember I am not your competition. I was a virgin by choice when I met my current boyfriend because I took the possibility of having children seriously. I didn't want just any man to be the father of my children. This is just explaining my choice. The reason why I have this as an example is because of the virgin stigma. How many of you have heard this statement; "Men hate virgins." or "You don't want to be inexperienced when you meet your perfect guy." I heard these and statements like these all the time. The interesting fact is that it was always from my competition back then. Never from the guys themselves. In other words I was able to attract a guy as a virgin which is what most females say is impossible.
I have three children from the same man: Again, I have been with the same man for 7, almost 8 years. We have three beautiful children together. There are no other crazy ex's or baby daddy problems. He stayed with me through all three pregnancies even though, they were not planned.
I do not put emphasis on marriage: Marriage is the goal right? Wrong. To women it seems like the end goal. It is not the goal for most men nowadays and divorce at a 50% rate in United States according to worldpopulationreview.com. Link to the numbers below. In other words, in United States, you have a 50% chance that your marriage will fail. Well, it's not like you can only get married once right? Very true, but imagine your partner deciding that they want a younger partner. After all, you can always marry again. Problem is more and more articles are coming out with women struggling after failure of a marriage, no matter the reason, and suddenly unable to succeed at the dating market. Marriage is not a a title you can be promoted beyond. Instead more emphasis should be placed on relationships and how to grow together than the marriage title. Once married, it is not happily ever after. You don't stop working on your relationship, no matter if you are a man or women. Plenty of people show you how to get a guy to marry you, but how many show you how to continue to have a strong relationship after? Add in the men's movement that has gained a lot of momentum in the recent decade and men are more and more reluctant to get married and stay in a committed relationship.
Now does this mean you have to take my future advice? No. In fact I challenge you to check out my links that I'll provide and read other blogs. Why? Knowledge is power. The more knowledge and understanding you have about a subject, the better chance you have a succeeding. Think of dating like a sports competition. You need to research and try different work outs to try to get first place in a sports competition. Same with dating in terms of research what men actually want. Same with men, research what type of men are successfully getting women and why. So if your dating life is not going well, why not try some thing new? I hate to say it ladies but shaming men is not going to change them into being attracted to you. So even if you don't take my advice, keep these questions in mind when trying to figure out the dating market and reading blogs from others. This may just save you from making some major mistakes in the long run.
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As always, take your future into your own hands.
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